Types of Boundaries in the Family Dynamics
Rigid Boundaries
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Allows for minimal contact from those that are outside of the immediate family
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Those children in the family do not have an environment of support and affection in the family system
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Communication often becomes obstructed
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Fail to adapt to changes in life stages (e.g, birth, marriage, divorce, child emancipating)
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May seem detached even with romantic relationships
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This boundary leads to isolation, disengagement and limits affection and emotional connectedness
Diffuse/Enmeshed boundaries
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Lack of independence and autonomy
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Your parents overshares personal information with children
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You are guilted if you act independent or if you want less contact with your family
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Independence is seen as an act of betrayal
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Your parents wants to know everything about your life and their life revolves around yours
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Your family’s sense of worth depends on your accomplishments
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Your parents may impose their dreams and ideas about your life goals and plans
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This boundary leads to low self-esteem, feelings of guilt, poor sense of self.
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Leads to fear of taking healthy risks and trying new things
Healthy boundaries
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Allows close emotional contact with others while allowing each person to maintain their sense of self
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Communication is clear and your thoughts, emotions and ideas are valued and heard
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You have a strong sense of identity
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You are assertive and open
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Your decisions are based on what you need and want instead of what others expect and want from you
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Parents do not overly share personal information with their children in an inappropriate manner
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Accepting when others say “no” to them
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Leads to healthy self-esteem, good assertiveness communication skills, and overall good mental health.