• Allows for minimal contact from those that are outside of the immediate family

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• Those children in the family  do not have an environment of support and affection in the family system

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• Communication often becomes obstructed

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•   Fail to adapt to changes in life stages (e.g, birth, marriage, divorce, child emancipating) 

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• May seem detached even with romantic relationships

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• This boundary leads to isolation, disengagement and limits affection and emotional connectedness 

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• Lack of independence and autonomy

 

• Your parents overshares personal information with children

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• You are guilted if you act independent or if you want less contact with your family

 

• Independence is seen as an act of betrayal 

 

• Your parents wants to know everything about your life and their life revolves around yours

 

• Your family’s sense of worth depends on your accomplishments  

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• Your parents may impose their dreams and ideas about your life goals and plans 

• This boundary leads to low self-esteem, feelings of guilt, poor sense of self. 

• Leads to fear of taking healthy risks and trying new things

• Allows close emotional contact with others while allowing each person to maintain their sense of self

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• Communication is clear and your thoughts, emotions and ideas are valued and heard

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• You have a strong sense of identity 

 

• You are assertive and open 

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• Your decisions are based on what you need and want instead of  what others expect and want from you

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• Parents do not overly share personal  information with their children in an inappropriate manner 

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• Accepting when others say “no” to them

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• Leads to healthy self-esteem, good assertiveness communication skills, and overall good mental health.